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Be Uncomfortable

If I continually did things that I was certain to finish, I would be unfulfilled because I wouldn’t be growing. I like the nervousness I feel when trying something new or facing an unfamiliar challenge.

I like having a big race hanging over my head. There are a few things that might happen; either I’ll push myself to new heights to be better prepared for the race, or when the race starts I will have to fight to sort it out as I go. Maybe both.

Either way I’m pushing to become a better person. If I fail, which happens a lot more than people like to believe, then I will learn from it. Where did things break down? Was it mental, physical, or was I short sited in something? Did I go into the race unprepared? Regardless, I will learn and grow.

I like that. I want to grow. I never want to settle for good enough. If I am successful, I like to take a moment to celebrate my accomplishment and then get right back at it, humbled. I have had people call me arrogant but I will be the first person to tell you that I’m not unique in my abilities or my drive. I am not special. My life has no more value than anyone else’s, I just want to get as much out of my life as possible, which might be the only difference. I want to look back on my life and tell the stories with the adventures sounding like the far-fetched dreams of a rambling mad man. If someone says that I am nuts for everything I am trying to achieve, then I’m getting where I need to be. I would much rather be outside the circle of normal and have people point me out as a person who has tried too many things and failed at all of them, than be one of the people that sit in the comfort being average and do the laughing.

I have DARE MIGHTY THINGS tattooed on my arm for a reason. It is a constant reminder to me that I would much rather be the laughing stock who tried to become everything possible with my life, than the person that gets to the end of my life and thinks “Fuck, I wish I had one more day.” Whenever the end of my life may come, I am ready for it. I am going balls to the wall right now chasing my dreams. The number of successes and failures I have is irrelevant. What matters to me is that I am going for it.

Dare mighty things.

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A Little Bit, a Lot of Times

Everyone gets carried away with giant dreams and goals. You want to be debt free, travel the whole world, have six pack abs, remodel your house, and have all new gear. You write out the goals and then schedule out a balls to the wall plan. You calculate everything down to the hour and the penny. You are going to be Zen in months. Maybe weeks. Better yet, hours!

On Monday morning you wake up hard charging for the goals. You tell your friends and family. You have this shit all figured out. When you lay down for bed that night, you are full of pride and accomplishment. People shouldn’t get paid to help you do any of these things. You just set your plan and get after it. Easy.

Then Friday rolls around. You have given yourself an allowance of $3 per week, you have been eating nothing but veggies and “clean” foods. You decide to treat yourself to a pint on the way home. You deserve it. Goal crushing five days in a row now. After your pint, someone offers to buy you another round if you stay. There is a pizza coming out for the table, too. So you have another pint. It won’t hurt anything. Eat some pizza. You are enjoying yourself, so you decide,- screw it, what is $3 and a few calories more? When you go to bed, you’re pissed that you went over your budget on money and calories.

You wake up Saturday and remember that you missed your goals yesterday. SHIT! You eat junk all day and go out Saturday night. You already blew the budgets so why not. You can start again Monday.

On Monday morning you’re a little less motivated. The same scenario plays out with a little less drive this time around. Three weeks later and you’re back to your same old routine. No lasting changes.

This has happened to everyone. EVERYONE! The question is why? The answer is simple; you’re trying to cut a tree down with a single chop. It doesn’t work that way. Nothing does. We tend to overestimate what we can get done in six months to a year and underestimate what we can get done in five years. You can either give one big ole swing with the ax and declare your victory or defeat, or you could take a small swing at the tree every time you walk by. If you go with the small swing approach, you will expend little to no perceived effort and the tree will fall before you know it. Now let’s apply that to life.

If you want to lose 10 pounds, that is 35,000 calories. You can starve yourself for a week and lose the weight, just to gain it back, or you can slowly change your habits. If you were to eat a breakfast that is 100 calories lower, and keep all other food intake constant, you would lose that 10 pounds in a year. That’s it. One meal that is healthier. It’s easy and you will hardly feel the change. You would probably get used to it very quickly and not even notice it after a few weeks. You are not your best efforts, you are what you consistently do; you are the average of your actions.

Make small changes. Make those changes habit. Make more small changes. Your life will change before you know it. You won’t even see it until you look back at how far you’ve come.

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I am mentally lazy

I am a lazy piece of shit sometimes. If I look back at my failures I can assign one cause to almost all of them, and that’s my mental laziness.

I let the “I don’t want to” overcome my drive for success. I don’t want to be cold, I don’t want to wake up, I don’t want to take the pain anymore, I don’t want to look bad, I don’t want to what ever the fuck my excuse is. There have been a few times in my life when that voice has screamed in my head with everything it has got and I have overcome it. But not today my friend.

I know that it can be done. What I want is to make that repeatable at my will. Suffering and the voice urging me to quit are old friends of mine. I know that they’re lying to me to get me to take the comfortable route. I never want to be comfortable with where I am at, and I never want to be comfortable being average. I want my own personal greatness.

Just a few weeks ago, I had a 150 mile training ride to do. It was pouring rain and cold when I started. It continued on for six hours. More than a couple times, I started to talk myself out of staying the course and following my route. No one would know. I’ve been training hard and could use a recovery day… Blah blah bullshit, blah. I will also admit there were a couple times I stoppped. I stopped to be comfortable. Then I would remember, it can’t rain all of the time, all of this will end at some point, and if I want to be something great, I have to endure what brings me discomfort. If I want to be able to be proud of who and what I am, I have to embrace what makes me uncomfortable.

I have the American Trail Race coming up very soon. I’ve been training to make a race plan and have been making deals with myself. That is bullshit. I am going out there to learn about myself and see what I can do mentally and physically. I will sleep when I have to, not when I plan to. It will hurt. I will be sore and uncomfortable. That is fine. I just need to keep my damn head in the game. I want to dig a deep dark hole and be okay sitting in it until that storm passes.

As of right now, I can tell you that I am not where I want to be. I am not even close. If I ever get to where I want to be, it’s because I’m being lazy and settling for good enough. There is always more I can do, and I can always do better. I don’t want greatness, I want my own greatness. Mental laziness will only get in the way of that.

You want to know the good part of all this? Like I said, I can always do better. So can you.


You Are an Average of Your Action: Thought of the Day

You are the average of everything you have done thus far in your life. All of your actions, meals, learning, friends, everything; blended into one.

Improve your average.

Improve your average.

It surprises me when people think that one single thing, good or bad, is going to change them forever. One cookie is not going to make you unhealthy, just like one salad is not going to make you healthy. You are an average of the food you consume. One workout is not going to get you in better shape, just like missing one is not going to knock you out of shape.

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Don’t Gamble That You Will Get Another Chance

Why wait for some other time to come when you will be able to follow your dreams?

If you woke up this morning, you should be chasing your dreams or setting yourself up to chase them. It pains me to see people get in the everyday groove of a “Dream Life.” Finish high school, go to college, get an office job, buy a new house, buy a new car, start a family, cash in your vacation time to pay off some of your credit card debt because you just needed a bigger television with the latest technology (“but it was on sale though”), pay only the interest on your student loans, complain you need a raise, day dream about when you retire and how great it’s going to be.

What about right now? Why not live your dreams now? Rent a small cheap apartment, drive a used car, take a three day vacation every quarter. Travel to a destination every month and explore.  Have one grand trip every year. You can do all of these things with kids. I know people who do.
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Do Not Accept Being OK

You have the choice to wake up every morning and choose whether you are going to be an unstoppable monster or you are just going to be OK.

If you tell yourself that you are an unstoppable goal crushing monster, even if you are not 100% there yet, you will work yourself in that direction. If you have settled for OK, any result that you have, positive or negative, will be fine because you have settled.
If you had a friend that followed you around all day and said negative things to you, you wouldn’t stay friends very long. I want to ask you why you would do that to yourself? Do not ever take away your own self worth. EVER.

Wake up, put your feet on the floor, remind yourself how god damn amazing you are, and get to crushing whatever your goals are.

You have a very limited amount of time to be alive. Make every day worth it. You are one of a kind, but you are not better or greater than anyone else. If you want something bad enough, the world doesn’t owe it to you, you owe it to yourself to get it. Work on your skills. Learn, put the time in. I will always be there to help you.



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